4 Characteristics that show you are a catalyst for others.

Have you found that people who are right in the midst of a personal struggle will gravitate to you and that your energy seems to guide them through their crisis?  Well that may mean that you are a catalyst of other people’s healing.

I am not referring to the daily healing work I do as a practitioner. No, I am talking about a much deeper personal and emotional healing done in a one-to-one relationship.  

I am looking at why I get drawn into these situations.   With my own experiences I have found that the following traits and behaviors attract the people who are in need of a catalyst to make life changing decisions:

Authenticity

After years of working on myself I have come to a place in my life where I feel truly authentic.   I don’t feel judged by anyone because I don’t care what others think and I don’t judge others.  The saying “What other people think of you is none of your business” resonates with me at a conscious and unconscious level.  This authenticity leads to ease in my dealings with others and makes them feel comfortable to share their secrets.

Intensity

I live my life with an intensity that is seldom matched in people around me.  Other people who resonate the same become close friends and in these cases there is no energy loss on either side.  The ones who don’t vibrate at the same rate find my intensity and energy acts like a catalyst for them.  They draw from this and use it to spark change in their own lives.  In most cases this is not a problem because I have learnt how to protect myself from energy vampires.

Heart Connection

My heart is open to my community, my friends and my family.  My heart is generally open in this way.  I do however keep my heart hidden in a relationship until something happens that triggers a happy memory and allows me to open it.  Once that happens I am 100% present and engaged.   I don’t play games well, so I avoid them.  I am either in or out there is no in between.  This trait often makes the other person feel safe and then they start to engage at a deeper level.  There are times they run because they are just not ready.  When they run I struggle to just let it be at first but I soon see the wisdom

Enthusiasm

I am nothing if not enthusiastic.  I have a passion for life and I don’t play small.  I have lived most of my life taking risks and laughing at most of the consequences.  My motto, if you don’t laugh you’ll cry and that won’t solve anything.  So I choose to laugh.  If doesn’t hurt less but it is more bearable and affords me the grace to hold my head up and laugh with others at my crazy life.  People who need to feel protected when taking a risk notice this.  They draw energy from me to step into the unknown.

Do you have the same traits?  For me it isn’t always easy… sometimes I invest and find that I am left asking what went wrong.  Does this happen to you?  Have you been left wondering how come you have been squeezed dry? 

Here is what I know; you have far more reserves than you think.  You will always return stronger than before.  You will recover quickly as long as you are never a victim.  Perhaps it is yours to do but remember you always have a choice.

I realize quickly that I choose my path and that there is power in every choice I make.  Life is glorious and we should all live it to the fullest, even if it means taking risks and laughing in the face of despair.

Choose wisely…

Love & Light

We Reap What We Sow...

I have been sitting with recent events waiting for some enlightenment, meditating trying to find peace. It has been long in coming and I have gone through the all the usual emotions shock, anger and now acceptance. For me it is not about who was elected so much as why the world in such a place that this is even a possibility.

It is simple really and we are all responsible. “How!” you cry. “How can it possibly be our fault?” We would all like to believe that we are good people and that we care for our neighbour. Sometimes we even act like we do but deep down there is a darkness of the soul that makes its-self known in the most insidious of ways.

Our thoughts of fear tear us apart.  We fear one another and separate from each other and in so hand over the one thing that will truly set us free, love.  The people who would control us know this and have been using this against us since the beginning of time.  We stand idly by while people we feel superior to are vilified. That is what it is about, our own self-importance and how we judge others for their ignorance because they do not believe as we do.

I have been doing soul searching to find the ways in which I have caused this separation.  I have meditated and done ceremony to heal these fears.  I have listened to the Tibetan Book of the Dead, looking for answers.

 I feel I may have found the answer; it is only through seeking truth and practicing compassion, for ourselves and others that will we find peace…

Love & Light

Battle for the Soul of America...

So, the fat lady is on the stage.  She hasn’t started singing yet therefore there is still time to change the tide but I have to say that things are looking super scary!

Yes there he is – Trump in all his glory firing up the people of the United States of America with his fear mongering and bigotry.  I don’t usually watch any of the convention things – I am Canadian after all – but this year I have watched some and followed in the news and I have felt like a person watching a horror/comedy never sure whether I should laugh out loud at the outrageous things he utters or to shield my eyes with my hands.

It has however opened my eyes to so many issues and I worry for my partner and friends in the US.  Racism, inequality, violence, fear and disillusionment are everywhere and people are tired.  Tired of lies and being held hostage by the world they live in. They, just like us wish to have a nice stable life without fear, guns and anger.  Is this what he will bring in should he be elected?  I really don’t know but if history is anything to go by, i.e. his campaign so far in the race to the Presidency, then I would have to say no and I get this awful pit in my stomach.

Trump is getting away with all this because his supporters are not calling him on his BS.  I have watched person after person being interviewed and even when faced with video proof of the erroneous things he says they reject it out of hand not even acknowledging it OR scarier still they justify it.  To me it seems that they know that if they should admit to any one of his lies or statements of bigotry then the veneer that holds them together will crack and it will all fall apart.  Do yourself a favour and watch a clip or two of a Trump supporter being confronted.  An example would be a little old Grandma who looks like she smells like vanilla cookies; red-faced and hoarse from all the screaming at the rally is asked if she believes Trump is a Christian.  “Of course he is!  He is the biggest (to coin a Trump phrase) Christian there is!”  My goodness this thrice married man is the “biggest” Christian there is?  Beats me….  These people all have one thing in common. When confronted with facts about Trump’s deceptions and contradictions they all look like CP3O having a short-circuit as they search for something to say that will make him sound sane.

If Trump should be elected to the highest office in this world these followers are going to expect him to keep his promises i.e. build that wall!  In the words of Michelle Obama… oops I mean Melania Trump “His word is his bond.”

Then of course there is this whole thing with Hillary.  Some people don’t like her or trust her. There are those e-mails and the cover up…. Benghazi… What can we believe? That she will say anything to get elected?  She represents so much of the old school politician that the Millennial’s despise.   They are Bernie fans! 

Hillary does not inspire as Bernie does.  She tries her best but she just isn’t as eloquent as Obama but she is capable and has the record to back up her claims that she can do the job. I have been watching Hillary valiantly trying to bring Bernie’s bright-eyed, tie-dyed idealists into the fold. I hope they go with her because what they don’t realize is that the US is not ready for the type of politician that Bernie Sanders is.  In forty years that ruler will rise from the very ranks of the young people who stood with him now, mark my words.  I hope I am still around to see that day.

Could we witness the rise of a fascist state?  I don’t know I would hope not but...  I watched Trump being asked some hard questions about abortion.  Regardless of your own moral personal views on the matter we have to think very carefully about banning it.  History taught us that doesn’t work and it puts many women at risk… backyard abortions will still happen.  What really concerned me though is that when the reporter eventually got him to respond to the question of the law should abortions be banned Trump finally conceded that he would recommend that the women be punished (jail time perhaps).  “What about the men?” the reporter asked. “Well… no.” was the reply.  This may seems small to some but I hear the suppression and vilifying of the Feminine.  What a shame that would be to take such a step back the very instant that the first woman in history is nominated to run for the Presidency of the United States.

On the bright side, often our worst fears are not realized.  It is quite possible that Trump, if elected will be hamstrung by Congress just as President Obama has been, and if Hillary gets elected nothing will change we will have four more years of quiet growth.

If the Democrats can’t get their act together we will be in for more than just a bumpy ride.  I feel sorry for the people of the US of A.  Depending which side of the political rhetoric you listen to their choice is between a villain and a demagogue.  Meanwhile fear is running rife as Trump fires up his jean clad, baseball cap wearing troops to take over the world….