I know, I just pissed a lot of people off but I think it is
a question that begs asking. I am worn
out by the expressed self-pity of empaths.
What is an empath anyway? The dictionary
says: “A person with the paranormal ability to
apprehend the mental or emotional state of another individual.”
Really, did I give you permission to step into my circle and
“feel” my mental or emotional state? I
don’t think so! Surely my thoughts, feelings
and emotions are mine to feel and own and not to be randomly high jacked by another. What really annoys me on top of it all is
that the empath will then take my angst or fears as their own; take it on and
wear it like a cloak, all the time bemoaning how horrid it is to feel other
people’s stuff. Well enough then – DON’T! I have not given you permission in the first
place!
Let’s get one thing straight, this is not a paranormal
ability. Every person I know has the
ability to feel what another is feeling and feel empathy for another. Some choose not to use their ability at all
and remain quietly asleep. Others don’t give a damn and disregard everyone’s
feelings but their own. That doesn’t
mean they can’t, they just don’t want to.
Perhaps sociopaths and psychopaths feel nothing at all – but they are
not most people, then again one could argue that they feel everything and that it is exactly this ability that makes them such skilled manipulators.
Most people will feel empathy for others when faced with
their sadness or grief, this is normal.
So what is the difference you ask?
The difference is that most people will not be so presumptive as to tell
you that they can feel your feelings better than you can.
Empaths that can’t go to busy places with a lot of people,
or the one crying in a crowd… you need to find a way to ground yourself. Perhaps look at ways that you can protect
yourself from the onslaught of other people’s feelings. I know it must be very confusing and
chaotic. Do you feel it makes you special
and different and is this feeling of "specialness" stopping you from holding your space? Is there a different way your gift can be applied where you don’t
have to be crushed by all that is going on around you? If as you say it is such
a burden to bear it might be time to find a way to tone it
down. There really is no need for you to
absorb my feelings or anyone else’s.
Personally I feel deep empathy for people. Let me add that
this has not always been so. It is only after my awakening and starting to heal
that I have been able to open up enough. As a person who works with people working on
their personal growth it is a requirement.
However, I have their permission and it is in a safe controlled
environment. When I go out into the
world, I go with an open heart but a protected Soul. I keep my fibers to myself and don’t impose
my luminosity, feelings or presence. And
I don’t want anyone doing that to me…
Love & Light
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